I received an e-mail from a lady who lost her husband due to suffering from Gaucher and Parkinson's for some years, and with her permission, I am sharing some thoughts on losing someone dear, and a book which helped her see "what to do next".
Naturally when one's spouse is diagnosed with any serious debilitating or fatal illness, life inevitably changes no matter how much one would like to stay in the safe land of comfortable denial. Dreams and plans for the future have to be adjusted accordingly, and sometimes are lost altogether. Staying flexible wherever possible is fundamental in dealing with these altering circumstances. Taking one day at a time, and coping with a new situation that feels alien, is not easy but this is where our inner strengths come into play. Most people in these unfortunate situations find themselves coping, and doing things they would never have envisioned, suddenly taking on the role of caregiver and running in "auto-mode" to some degree. Everyone reacts in different ways, but ultimately deal with the same problems, so any practical advice could be invaluable and welcomed.
When one's spouse passes on, life is understandably never quite the same again and one has to almost "re-invent" oneself. Knowing that life must go on, yet floundering as to countless new things one has to deal with that were taken care of before, can be an overwhelming position. Starting a fresh chapter in your life, is probably the last thing you want to do, but with courage, inner strength and the human thirst for survival, picking one's self up and moving forward is inevitable.