Not tonight Josephine!

Upon Napoleon declining sex with Empress Josephine, the phrase was coined “Not tonight Josephine”! Poor Napoleon never actually said this, yet it became a well-known phrase, which was in fact originally from a 1915 song. But this would spoil the story, so let’s stick to the notion that Napoleon did indeed speak these words to his beloved. Now you may be wondering what on earth has Napoleon and Josephine got to do with Gaucher or Parkinson! I'm sure you are curious, but don’t worry I’m getting to the point. Sexual intimacy with one’s spouse is an important part of the relationship, and even though one’s enthusiasm may dwindle due to medications, excess fatigue, pain, and all the complications involved with suffering a chronic degenerative disease, making the effort to show affection is essential. A relationship needs sustenance in the form of closeness, tenderly understanding each other’s needs, despite the difficulties of the situation. You may not be the young energetic limber person you once were; not able to swing from the chandelier or make the next door neighbours think that an earthquake occurred last night, but all is not lost. With a little effort and imagination, some form of romantic intimacy can and should be made. Victoria Wood’s rendition of “Let’s do it” always makes me laugh, and so if like Napoleon, it’s “not tonight!” relax, take a breath and enjoy a little light British humour, that I'm sure will make you smile.